How To Overcome Fear And Get What You Want!
How To Overcome Fear And Get What You Want!
Hey it’s Matt with operationawesomelife.com here to record a short video for you on how to overcome fear and get what you want![Video Transcript] If you are someone that is a little bit fearful of something in your life, it could be absolutely anything, it could something to do with business, public speaking, asking a girl out on a date, or really anything in this world. Most likely, there’s an acronym that will make you feel better about that fear. Here’s the acronym.
Fear Is False Evidence Appearing Real
(FEAR), False Evidence Appearing Real. You may have heard this before, but maybe you’re not really thinking it through.
Most of the time, these fears don’t really mean much. They’re really not anything we should be fearful of. But we’ve built it up in our mind to something that we’ve thought a lot of bad thoughts about. We have cultivated negative thoughts. And thought things that really are not putting us in a confident mindset.
There’s another quote that I really like. It’s a quote from Jack Canfield and he said, “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” I think that is so incredibly true.
If you really stop thinking about your fear. And you start thinking about the thing that you want and how badly you want it, that can oftentimes help you to overcome your fear. It can help you to look past the little fear that you’re dealing with. And to look to the greater future that you’re going to have once you get past that fear.
Are You Motivated Enough To Overcome Fear?
Another thing though that we should talk about concerning fear is this. You have to have sufficient motivation to want to overcome the fear.
If you don’t have sufficient motivation to overcome the fear, or a strong enough reason to overcome it, then it’s really not going to be something that you’re going to stick with.
Also, it might not be something that really affects your life that much if it’s not something that you really care that much about.
For instance, if you have a fear of giant spiders, and you know that you could overcome that fear. But you ask yourself, “what’s the good that’s going to come out of me overcoming the fear?” Just that you can hold a spider.
I mean, if that’s not a big enough deal to you, then you’re not going to really do what it’s going to take to overcome the fear because you don’t have a strong enough reason to overcome it.
Is Your Fear Stopping You From Something Great?
On the other hand. If the fear that you have is really stopping you but it’s something that you truly want, if you want to ask a girl out on a date and this girl is someone that you would love to spend time with. She seems like she’s a really awesome person and you’d love to get to know her more. And there’s obviously a lot of benefit of you overcoming that fear. Then you’re going to be much more likely to do the things necessary to overcome the fear.
So what do you do? How do you overcome the fear since it’s causing you to be so debilitated in your life?
You have to do the thing that you fear the most. If you do the thing that you fear the most, then you will overcome that fear.
You May Be Fearful The First Time But Keep Going
You may have to do it a few times. It may cause you to be fearful the first 5 to 10 times you do it. But the more you do it, the less fearful you’re going to become.
It’s just like when you were a kid and you were trying to ride a bike. Your dad put some training wheels on your bike and put you on that thing. You were fearful because you had never ridden a bike before. And then you were even more fearful when the training wheels came off the bike because then you had to ride all by yourself.
After you fell a few times, you started realizing that there wasn’t really much to be fearful of. And you started really enjoying riding your bike. You got to ride your bike with the other kids and you were part of the group and it was really awesome. That’s the type of motivation you need to overcome the fear. But you have to do the thing that you fear the most and it sucks! It stinks that that’s what you have to do. It would be nice if you could just read a book about it and not do the thing that you fear the most, but that’s just not how it works.
You Have To Do The Thing That You Fear The Most
You have to do the thing that you fear if you truly want to overcome that fear. It could be a fear in business. You might have a fear of failing and that fear is stopping you from such an incredible life that you could have. Your life could get so incredible and you could have so much more of a fulfilling life if you would overcome that fear. But this extreme anxiety and fear stops you from taking the necessary risks that you need to take to overcome it.
Aside from doing the thing that you fear the most, another thing that you can do that is extremely powerful is something called incantations. Tony Robbins taught me about this.
Here’s How I Use Incantations To Overcome Fear
Here’s how I use incantations. I write out all the new beliefs that I want to have. For example, if your new belief you wanted was to be able to touch a spider, you’d say, “It’s so easy for me to touch a spider. I love touching a spider. I enjoy touching a spider.”
You say these things, but you need to repeat them over and over again and you need to repeat them with a lot of energy. Don’t just say it soft or just whisper it. You have to get up and use as much of your physiology as you possibly can.
So say something like this. “I love spiders. I freaking love spiders. I love touching them. They love me touching them.” Haha that sounds weird, but you know what, you get the impression.
You have to use as much energy as you possibly can to emphasize it. The more energy you use, the more you’re going to believe it yourself.
You can repeat these incantations over and over again and you can do it as much as possible. The more you do it before you actually do the thing that you fear, the better.
Set A Date To Face Your Fear And Prepare To Beat It
Maybe set a date. Set a date that “I’m going to hold the spider in a month from now, in 30 days from now.”
For the next 30 days, every day, at least once, hopefully, 2 or 3 or 4 or 5 times, do these incantations and repeat them over and over again. “I love spiders. I love holding spiders. Spiders love me holding them. We’re friends. I’m friends with spiders,” just whatever it is that comes into your mind.
Rant off as many of them as you possibly can and just really drill it into your subconscious mind that you and spiders are friends, instead of being afraid of the spider.
Do those incantations and then after you’ve done it for a period of time, go out and test it out on a real-life experience. Actually go out and hold the spider.
If you get extremely fearful the first time, don’t worry because that’s normal.
Fear Will Be Replaced With Enjoyment Or Boredom
What you will notice is that when you’re done holding the spider, you’ll probably realize that you shouldn’t have been as afraid as you were.
Then you’ll get a little more courage the next time to hold the spider. Then you go and hold the spider again in a few weeks and you notice you have a little less anxiety than you did before.
You keep repeating this process until one day it’s almost boring to hold the spider because there’s just no fear there. No fear is there and it’s almost enjoyable or boredom or something else besides fear, something else has replaced fear.
Final Thoughts On How To Overcome Fear
Those are the steps that I go through if I need to break a fear down. Incantations and then do the thing that you fear the most.
I hope this was helpful for you guys. Don’t let your fears hold you back because most of the time they’re silly. We shouldn’t be fearful in the first place. Go out there and don’t let anything hold you back. Get what you want in this world.
Here is another recent post I published on How To Destroy Self-Doubt And Stop Worrying. I think will be very helpful for you. You can take a look at it here: “How To Destroy Self-Doubt And Stop Worrying!”
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